21 March 2013

When jealousy strikes...

[caption id="attachment_2286" align="aligncenter" width="500"]I was here first... I was here first...[/caption]

Adding another dog to the mix changes a Scottie. Just ask Mr. K. In the matter of one afternoon - the day we brought Heather home - he went from being the alpha dog, the king of the roost and the sole proprieter of Scottie Mom's love and affection to the master of bowing out of the way to make room for the queen bee so she can get the loving that she wants, even if it means letting her beat your face with her tail. The drastic change was astounding.

Mr. K only attempted to regain his alpha status twice - both times on the very day we brought Heather home. He was shut down by an intervening Scottie Mom and he soon learned there was enough love to go around for the two of them. With that, he adjusted to life as a little brother and said goodbye to life as an only child. Sometimes I wonder what's going on in that head of his and what exactly changed to make those ears go down and for him back away when Heather passes by. Scottie Dad, in his own way of showing concern for his little man, now hosts pep talks and "guy chats" when he comes home with Mr. K to boost his sense of self and to attempt balance between the masculine and the feminine reign. (Ironically, Heather leaves me the minute Scottie Dad starts talking and pushes Mr. K out of the way so she can have his attention instead.)

There are some days, however, we see glimpses of the "old Mr. K." Take last night for example: he was sitting at the foot of the couch and I was stretched out on the other end. Heather decided it was time to join and hopped up next to Mr. K. Half in a slumber, Mr. K let out a soft growl and Heather stood there looking at me and wagging her tail. I called her over and hushed Mr. K. For a brief moment, Heather climbed onto my lap (a rarity - my girl likes her space). When she turned around to make herself comfortable, there was Mr. K, now sitting up, looking concerned and watching Heather take his favorite spot in Scottie Mom's lap. This was obviously not okay with Mr. K but that's never stopped Heather before!

Alas, Heather didn't sit down and opted to go to her favorite spot at the foot of the couch instead. It was as if the two traded silent signals and agreed to switch places right away. You could almost see the relief in Mr. K's eyes that Scottie Mom's lap had not been defiled by another dog, even if that other dog was Heather. He marched over and nestled close. Within minutes, Mr. K was snoring and Heather was drifting off to sleep, too, but I had to laugh: what was that about? Did I just witness some super secret Scottie code? Did Heather just threaten Mr. K that she'd sit in my lap if he didn't leave her spot? Was Mr. K really that jealous of the thought of another dog sitting in Scottie Mom's lap? I suppose there are some thing about my Scotties I'll never know...

6 comments:

  1. I love Scotties. They are truly a special kind of breed. I have one named Lily and she is my heart. We will celebrate her 7th birthday in May. I cannot believe seven years have flown by so fast. I still, to this day, do not fully understand her. I love her and accept her for who she is. At times she wants her space and at other times she wants to be as close to me as possible, though it seems when I want to cuddle up to her, that is when she wants her space. She has a mind of her own and I respect her for it.

    I found your blog through Pinterest a few days ago and I love reading your posts. They make me smile and laugh out loud because the stories you tell are so similar to mine. I love how Scotties are truly a unique breed and how they all seem to be so similar.

    I just wanted to share a little with you this morning and to let you know just how much I am enjoying your blog and the sweet pictures of your precious babies!

    Have a blessed day

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  2. Zac & I used to have to take turns and I didn't like it at all! One good thing about Raffles being so big is that he can't pinch a space on the lap, although he does pinch everything else!

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  3. I have to confess I get jealous if Lily wants to snuggle with my peep. I usually just get up stare and then walk out of the room. But I remember, and the next time were out in the garden, I like to nip and chase Lily and block her way from my peep...just so she knows who's boss.
    Maggie

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  4. You do have a sweet life Joanna, very cute website and we have a lot in common as to the types of critters we hoard :) I see your Lily is seven. If I had gotten Robbie's kidney's checked when he was seven he would still be a live. There were no symptoms, he died a horrible death. This is my loving reminder to get Lily's kidney's checked if you haven't already. You have a beautiful dog and family. Lyn

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  5. Mr.k sounds a lot like poe and heather a lot like kirby. Exactly the same way it went down in our house. Poe still thinks he's the alpha dog though (he is just more at peace with sharing the limelight now) and thankfully they aref riends!

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  6. I'm so sorry that you lost your sweet baby. I need to take Lily in for a Healthy Checkup. She has my heart and it would break if she wasn't with me anymore.

    Thank you so much for the sweet compliments. I love documenting the fun things we do in our family on my blog.

    I hope you have a blessed day.

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